Rejection Is One of the Best Things That Can Ever Happen to a Writer

Hey Grace! Nice title, but this isn’t the best fit, thanks!

I received this a few days ago from a publication I submitted a post to. It was a very polite way of saying NO!

No can be harsh. It can be demoralizing when you are not prepared for it.

I waited for 72hrs, expecting an acceptance with a few adjustments here and there. Instead, all I got was this very polite rejection.

A lot of times when we claim to keep an open mind, deep down, we’re expecting positive feedback.

I don’t know about you, but the word rejection is not my favorite word. It sends a bad signal through my brain because, it messed me up as a child and as a young adult.

That’s how I know It’s IMPOSSIBLE to go through life without experiencing rejection. Expecting anything different in the world of writing would be unrealistic.

Writers like every human being crave validation. It’s in our nature. We value appreciation and positive feedback for our work. But when the reverse is the case, it hurts our pride.

The truth is rejection has no power on its own unless we give it power over us. Our perception of rejection determines its effect on us.

There was a time in my life when I thought rejection spoke to a person’s worth. And back then I struggled a lot with self-worth.

But I know better now.

As a writer, a rejection doesn’t mean your work is worthless. It means you still have work to do.

If your work is not the right fit for one publication, it could be the best fit for another.

There’s no need to throw in the towel. You can’t give up on writing because of one rejection.

Understand that editors of publications have a lot of work to do. They have tons of submissions to go through and they have to pick the best — based on their requirements.

So, if they reject your work, it has nothing to do with your worth as a person and as a writer.

Rejection is good for writers because it’s an opportunity to improve.

Of course, you can sulk for a minute or two after a rejection — it makes you human, not weak. When you’re done sulking, give your work another look.

I did the exact same thing and it made me realize, my work was shabby. I had to rewrite the whole thing again before publishing it.

If I wasn’t rejected, I would assume my work was good, when it wasn’t.

Rejection is an opportunity to dig deeper into your potential. Henry Ford said:

There is no man living who isn’t capable of doing more than he thinks he can.

And this applies to everyone, even you.

Rejection happens. Don’t dread it rather appreciate it, because it is a second chance to get better and do better.

I write to heal hearts and minds. I hope my words connect with you.

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